Priming App

I’m working on a web application for priming, which can be found at primingapp.com.

Personal pages

About Andrew: about me and my personality.

Intimacy: what I seek and what I offer.

My personal blog, musings on seeking joy.

Networking for Introverts: This article is for you, an introvert, who has a business or a mission that you need to get the word out about, but find networking exhausting.

Beauty and Love: Today I see the astonishing beauty of women, and it brings tears to my eyes.

Serenity Bondage: What is it about the mind-body connection that bondage can create a feeling of profound relaxation and serenity?

Desire: My own personal desire map: conversation, touch, bondage, making love.

Direct Communication: And the perils of politeness.

Poly, Love, Romance, and Security: Happiness in personal relationships.

Good With Women: I met up with a friend the other day and she mentioned that I seemed to be good with women, and asked how I had learned how to be that way.

Just Cuddle?: Can a guy spend a night just “cuddling” a girl and resist making a sexual advance?

About congruent joy

Think about all the things we want in the world: peace, abundance, healthly bodies, healthy selves, healthy communities, a healthy environment, a heathly world, freedom, and so on and so forth, all the problems we want to fix and all the evils we wish to remove, and there’s a word we can use to describe the outcome, all the outcomes: joy. When we see poverty or disease or violence or injustice, these are all not joy, and their opposite is moving towards joy.

But, not any kind of joy. I could say to you, here is a pill, take this pill and you will lie in bed all day and all night, forever, doing nothing, completely happy, totally protected, absolutely safe, with no need to eat or drink or anything that would impinge on your happy state. And you would say, no, I don’t want happiness, not at that cost. What cost? The cost of your aspirations, your dignity, your desire to be in the world, to grow, to help others.

Or, we might say, is not the bully happy, the sociopath, the dictator? Maybe we would argue that they’re not really happy, but, still, they sure do seem to be enjoying themselves. What if the bully's victim was made unhappy only a little bit, and the bully in total got a greater increase in happiness from bullying than the victim lost happiness, would that make it OK? No, we say, even if the total amount of happiness in the world was increased by bullying, it still would be unfair.

So yes, we want joy, but joy congruent with our values, our aspirations, with our highest self.

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